17 Mar Feeling unsure about yourself and future?

Most people assume I’m ridiculously confident. That I wake up every morning, stare at myself in the mirror like a Roman emperor, and say, “Today, I shall conquer.”

The truth? I wake up uncertain all the time.

• Is my business really going to work?

• Are things going as well as they should be?

• Did I actually send that email or just draft it in my head and forget?

Uncertainty creeps in constantly. It’s annoying. But over time, I’ve realized that the way I deal with it is actually quite simple. Rather than wallowing in self-pity, waiting for confidence to magically appear, I do something radical: I make a decision. Then another. Then another.

It turns out that action is the antidote to doubt. The more I move, the less room uncertainty has to paralyze me. And as I’ve studied successful people—business leaders, athletes, creatives—I’ve found they do the same. They don’t wait to feel ready. They just go.

So, if you’re feeling unsure about yourself, here’s how you move forward:

1. Show your doubtful mind your work

Your brain is a terrible hype man. It loves to tell you you’re failing, that you’re not good enough, and that you should probably just stay in bed and rewatch The Office instead of going after your goals.

But here’s the thing: You are what you repeatedly do.

James Clear (author of Atomic Habits) talks about how confidence isn’t something you have; it’s something you build. If you keep taking action—writing, speaking, selling, training—you accumulate proof that you’re actually capable. And that proof? It silences the doubt.

So, instead of waiting to feel certain, start moving. Do something. Write the email. Launch the website. Make the call. Even if it’s not perfect, progress is always better than paralysis.

2. Everyone feels the same as you

Here’s a wild fact: Even the people you admire the most—whether it’s your boss, a bestselling author, or some billionaire on LinkedIn who keeps posting about his 5AM cold plunge—also feel uncertain.

Self-doubt is baked into the human experience. The difference between people who succeed and those who don’t? The successful ones just don’t let uncertainty stop them.

If you sit around waiting for absolute confidence, you’ll wait forever. The key is to commit to patterns that move you forward, regardless of how you feel.

• A writer commits to writing, even when they don’t feel inspired.

• An entrepreneur commits to making offers, even when they fear rejection.

• A runner commits to training, even when Netflix is calling their name.

Don’t let your feelings dictate your actions. Instead, let your commitment guide you.

3. Make peace with uncertainty (it’s not going anywhere)

The biggest lie we tell ourselves is that one day we’ll have everything figured out. That if we just read enough self-help books, get the right job, or reach a certain income level, we’ll finally feel sure about everything.

But that day never comes. Even the most accomplished people still deal with doubt. The goal isn’t to eliminate uncertainty—it’s to get comfortable living with it.

Psychologists call this tolerance for ambiguity—the ability to function even when things aren’t clear. Research shows that people who develop this skill tend to be more creative, resilient, and adaptable.

So instead of fearing uncertainty, embrace it as part of the process. You don’t need to have everything figured out to move forward. You just need to take the next step.

A Quick Note Before You Go

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